Oh my goodness! Today I witnessed Daisy behaving in a way that my elder two never did and boy was it embassassing.
Up until now I thought Daisy was an easy, happy baby who loves other people and children. I had noticed a stubborn/ independent side to her personality (likes to try to do things by herself) and couldn’t fail to pick up on the jealousy she experiences when her Sisters get more attention than her (She pushes them out of the way saying “my mum” or bopping them on the head). She definitely doesn’t like the word no and cries when you say it…..but I had never before seen behaviour like today.
You see today was the day I took Daisy to her first Tumble Tots session. She had been watching big Sister Rosie go for a while but today it was all about her. She was really excited when she saw the apparatus and couldn’t wait to get started but unfortunately she just didn’t get waiting get her turn or going around the circuit in one direction. Then when I said “No” or held her back it was the end of the World.
She actually threw herself on the floor kicking her legs, back arching, whilst crying. I wouldn’t say she was screaming but she was definitely crying. She was easily distracted eg by the slide but then would start over again when I wouldn’t let her walk back up it the wrong way.
I was so embarrassed and didn’t really know how to deal with it. The staff had always seen this sweet easy going baby who would fall asleep on me or lie on a mat in the corner fast asleep. Now that cutie was behaving like a little monster. Luckily they were fab. But oh dear! I think I’m going to have my hands full with this one. I can honestly say her Sisters never did this.
We are going to keep going though as I think it will be good for her to learn turn taking and waiting. In the mean time I’m going to have to think of strategies to deal with it. All ideas welcome.
Karen x
Elaine Livingstone
November 7, 2013 at 10:07 pm (11 years ago)sometimes I think it is brought on by the older ones always pampering to the younger ones, my son if he wanted something just pointed and screamed and the girls would do/fetch/five to him. He would scream for what they had and no matter how often I told them off they still gave into him.
as for coping strategies, keep it up, instil the behaviour you expect in public, and keep makig her wait her turn, go the right way etc.
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November 8, 2013 at 7:57 pm (11 years ago)Thank you. I think you’re right about the older ones. I do tend to let her go first a lot too so I am going to change that I think. Watch this space 🙂
NewMumOnline
November 7, 2013 at 10:56 pm (11 years ago)Oh gosh I had the blogging event of a lifetime to Google HQ the other day and Aaron did this. My boy who never tantrums for more than 90 seconds did so for 30 minutes punching me in the face and screaming in front of everyone. No wonder my post is called mortified. You have my empathy honey xxx
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November 8, 2013 at 7:54 pm (11 years ago)Will have to pop over and read it! that’s terrible. Thanks for support xx