Right now I feel sick, really sick and like the worst Mummy In the World.
Someone has been hurting Rosie at Preschool. I’ve only just found out but it’s been going on for a few weeks. She never told me….I didn’t ask.
Since half term, I’ve noticed Rosie’s behaviour has changed dramatically. However, she has also been really unwell since around that time so I just related it to that and wasn’t too surprised. She doesn’t cope well with being poorly and is always difficult when she is. The past few weeks have been particularly bad with all three girls having slapped cheek syndrome followed by another horrible flu like virus and a sickness bug.
Generally she has been miserable and whiny, just wanting to be cuddled all the time and when I can’t sit there holding her, she cries. In fact shes been crying hysterically at the slightest thing and not just a little either. She’s woken screaming in the night from bad dreams or with tummy ache (she always does when poorly). She has also been playing up/ being naughty. She’s drawn on everything from furniture, herself & Poppy’s School uniform. She has been pushing Daisy over and hitting both Sisters on the head. She hasn’t been very nice at all and to be honest I haven’t had much patience with her. I’ve found it all draining and exhausting, putting it down to her feeling unwell. Note to myself – never assume anything!
I never once thought it had anything to do with preschool as she loves it there. The teachers think she is lovely, she’s made some really nice friends and everyday she asks if she can stay all day.
Last night though it all came out. All the girls were in the bath quite happily playing as usual and talking about their school plays. Rosie then asked “Mummy, if someone pokes me in the tummy like this (and prodded herself hard) during the play should I tell a Teacher?” I told her she should and asked who had done it. She told me the girls name and then it all poured out.
Apparently they do it when no one else is watching. A pinch on the hand or arm, a scratch or prod in the tummy or side and if they’re feeling really brave, a quick hit on the head. Rosie has tried telling her she doesn’t like it but the girl doesn’t listen.
I’ve spoken to her Teacher today and they are going to talk to the girls Mum. Apparently she did it at the start of term to someone else but it stopped once the parents had been told. It’s started again though now she’s found new people to target. I’m the second parent to complain this week and Rosie tells me she’s done it to her best friend too.
Already Rosie seems happier knowing it’s out in the open. Let’s hope it stops now and she goes back to being her normal, cheeky but sweet natured self. In the meantime I’m being much more tolerant and talking to my little girl about everything. Will keep you posted.
Karen x
HELEN
December 7, 2013 at 8:55 am (11 years ago)aww that’s so sad, poor Rosie. At least she has told you now & hopefully it will all stop, although they really need to keep an extra eye on this girl to make sure she doesn’t do it to another child. I hope you get your old Rosie back now x
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December 7, 2013 at 7:43 pm (11 years ago)Thanks Helen. They are keeping a close eye on Rosie and this other girlhood. As Rosie isn’t the only one and she’s done it before they are taking it seriously x
Vicki Heaton-Smith
December 7, 2013 at 10:04 am (11 years ago)Poor Rosie, Oscar had a little experience of this when he started the new school – its so much easier once everything is out in the open as the teachers are able to deal with it, and keep a closer eye on it. Oscars teachers were really good and it turned out that the little boy involved was a little heavy handed all round and he is particularly clumsy too, but Oscar is happier now. Know what you mean though, it gets you right in the guts, she’ll be back on form soon.
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December 7, 2013 at 7:42 pm (11 years ago)Thanks for the reassurance Vicki. It’s really awful for everyone. Glad Oscar is ok now, fingers crossed Rosie will be too x
Kate C
December 7, 2013 at 9:27 pm (11 years ago)It often seems to be that kids come out with things at times when you least expect it. I’ve had this myself just this week. Something unexpected came out when my daughter was chatting in a situation where I’d not made the effort to sit her down. I’m not sure kids like that pressure. That’s why talking to them in the car or walking home from school is often good to find out things you really want to know.
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December 10, 2013 at 10:40 pm (11 years ago)So true. I felt bad as I really thought she was just being a monster, so glad it’s in the open now x
Inside The Wendy House
December 7, 2013 at 9:31 pm (11 years ago)I hope it all gets sorted soon. At least it is all now out in the open and can be dealt with. xxx
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December 10, 2013 at 10:39 pm (11 years ago)Thanks Wendy. It’s amazing how much happier she is after telling me and the teacher. Having a better week already xx
Jennypaulin
December 7, 2013 at 10:33 pm (11 years ago)oh no Karen i feel for you so much. It is so easy to assume something and go along and not think it is anything out of the ordinary , especially when illness is about too. I am so pleased for the pair of you that Rosie brought the subject up an hopefully now it will b sorted and the girl will stop behaving lke that.
sending hugs x x
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December 10, 2013 at 10:38 pm (11 years ago)Thanks Jenny. It’s horrible knowing someone’s hurting and upsetting hour child. Thank goodness she has told me xx